Commited to Parenting

Last night I went out for coffee with a good friend of mine and we came to the topic of kids. Naturally of course, b.c i now have two and she is expecting her first. We began to discuss the great things about kids and that when people have 2 kids it's for sure "commiting to parenting" It does not mean that if you only have one child that you are NOT committed, but with 2, it seems that the word "comitted" takes on a whole new meaning. With only Rocco in our lives it seemed that we lead our life almost the same way as we did before we had him with. We could still go out late (as long as we had somewhere to put his playpen so he could sleep or he stayed home with Abuelita), we would still, for the most part, be able to do what we wanted at home, and life was still pretty simple. Now that we have Enzo, it seems that adding one more person in our family has made life a little more crazy and also a little more difficult to take time for myself...and for my husband. I see now why there are so many articles out there talking about the importance of not revolving your life around your kids and really taking the time to be with your spouse and making an effort of spend some quality time together, without children. Also, being a little selfish too I think is more than ok. I realized that i need some "me" time in order for me to be a good parent to my boys. I need to go and get a pedicure, or go out for supper with a friend to feel refreshed and energized. I need to remember that I am not just a mother now, but still a wife and a friend!